I always wanted everything to be perfect. Many things I did, could not satisfy me because they did not meet the standard I set for myself ... When I left Israel, more than ever, I learned to manage on my own. Fulfilling dreams, taking care of children, being a full-time mother, (I didn’t want to have a full time nanny), always being busy, and most importantly trusting myself for doing things - because trusting myself meant doing it in the best way. There will be no mistakes. According to my standards ...
Even when I gave birth, I heard sentences from people close to me, such as: "You do not need anyone. You always get along." Right. This is what I showed. Everything is under control. I need no one.
Then came the fatigue and with it the most significant lesson: to trust myself? Yes. But trust my choices. Not trusting myself to do everything alone. While it is easy and will probably be exactly as I want, the price can be very high. I have learned to surround myself with people I know will be there for me as I will be there for them. I learned to recognize that there are difficult moments and that I also need a breathing space. I learned to leave dishes in the sink knowing they will be there later ...
Relocation is a great opportunity to think about ourselves, what we want to take with us and what we are giving up. It is an opportunity to trust others and let other people help you with what you need. It is an opportunity to understand that we can give up a little of your perfectionism...
Enjoy the moment as it is and think less about how better it could be.
Where does perfectionism meet you?
The photo: perfectly imperfect
Dr. Efrat Tzadik - Coach for personal development Find the home away from home
